Because Each Day Seems Like the One Before.

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It is a new day and you awake feeling refreshed, inspired and empowered to embrace the presence of hope and take on the challenges of the day. You complete your morning routine; prayer, meditation, exercise, set your intention and get started with your day. From the first few moments, everything goes well. No real issues arise and you seem to possess the strength, will and necessary tools to face your day. Then….

Out of nowhere you realize that something is off. A close reflection of the first few moments of your day gave no indication that something was wrong. You cannot put your finger on it but something has changed. You continue to move forward with your day, because life does not stop just because you have a sense that you are no longer in the sane ‘slay the day’ space that you were at the start of your day.

As if on cue your mind begins to go back over the early part of your morning to see what could have happened to cause the sudden shift in emotion that you have begun to feel. This, all while you try to continue on with your day with a business as usual attitude. From your recollection, everything was fine before you walked into the grind of your day. Nothing out of the ordinary has happened. You just do not feel as secure, confident, strong inspired and empowered as you had earlier during your day. What happened?

It is very important to understand your emotions and how they work. As women, we are called out consistently for being overly emotional in some or all of the roles that we play in our daily lives. In order to ensure our success, we must learn not only to control our emotions but to understand them in the context of our personal and professional relationships. We must shine a light on our own emotional interactions with ourselves. What we say, think and do in relation to how we feel about ourselves has a huge impact on how we show up emotionally in the world .

Somewhere between the start to your day and the present moment, you experienced an emotional shift from a positive and empowering perspective to a more solemn state where uncertainly has settled. The reasons for this can be many. It may be obvious as to what caused the shift or it may be a total mystery. Whether or not there was a preceding event that you can recollect, if you want get back in the space that you were when you began your day, you will need to decide to make another emotional shift and regain your grasp on the day. If not, the success that you crave may fall short or be significantly delayed altogether.

Take a few moments to tend to yourself. What are you feeling at the present moment? Are there any events that took place that could have had an influence on your emotions? If so, what is the connection between the event and your current emotional state? Is the event real or imagined? What are you telling yourself about what you are feeling? Is what you are telling yourself true or untrue? Getting a hold of your feelings about an event or perceived event is important as you work your way out of your current undesired emotional state. Reflection is important so that you do not allow everything to keep pilling on top of each other making it more difficult to uncover what the issue really is. It will be easier to address your emotions as they come, then to wait until you have to sift through a myriad of emotions and events to find the core of what you are really experiencing.

Self care is a major part of personal growth. The road to achieving the life you desire is rocky with many twist and turns. Your mind and emotions will not always align and you will definitely experience days when you wonder if you are still on the right road or not. Until you work to understand and manage your emotions, you will find yourself experiencing emotional highs and lows at critical times when you need your focus the most. In addition, if you choose not to tend to your emotional you can run the risk of falling back into a more unhealthy state of emotional turmoil that is more difficult to resolve.

Throughout the day, in the moments when you feel the shift, take a step back. First, understand that it is ok that in this moment, you are not necessary where you want to be emotionally. Then, take steps to resolve any emotions that are having a negative impact on your day. After that, decide what kind of day you choose to have, then move forward with purpose. This process can be shortened or lengthened as needed and to the extent that your emotions are managing your day instead of you managing your emotions.

It is important to learn the art of stepping away for a few moments in your day to tend to your self care in a way that will not significantly impact your work performance. An important fact to remember is that if you choose not to address your emotions, they will impact your day regardless so taking a few moments when needed can be very impactful. At the end of the day, take another moment to reflect according to your need to ensure that you have resolved any issues from the day to set a clean slate for the following day. With intention, practice and consistency, you will be able to better manage your emotions which will impact how you show up in the world around you.

@ Inspired Serenity by Kim Seymore December 22, 2021

Progress

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The journey to healing is slow and its success is contingent on your ability to navigate the waves of emotions that continue to resurface in times of uncertainty. With or without your permission, your strength dwindles in moments when you need it the most. Often times, your faith in something better seems to be out of your reach as the belief that things will stay the same dominate the present.

How then, does the process of healing bring you to the place in your journey where you can see and know that true progress is taking place? The promise is in the small steps and this is where we need to land our focus. Whether it be one day, one hour or one second that you feel hope for a better life experience, you must see it as progress. Failing to notice the small moments of relief from life’s hurts, disappointments, shame and defeat, will serve to delay your progress.

Your hope should be grounded in what is true about the promises of GOD. It is not HIS WILL for us to succumb to the pressures of life’s challenges. We must find our strength to endure in HIS WORD. We must also understand who we are and what our purpose is here on this earth. We must be grounded in our true selves, the gifts that we have been given and the power that we posses to carry out our life’s purpose. Our ability to fulfill our roll in this big world will come in the process of progress.

We must commit to the process of growth, even in our low moments. The end goal must always be the focus, This will guide our steps and guard against feelings of defeat, failure and despair. Along the journey, we must see our own value and worth. Once we internalize who we are, then we can begin to make decisions that align with who we are becoming. Until then, we will remain ‘stuck’ in an endless loop of self defeat, which will in turn give the perception that we are failing.

Slow progress is often mistaken for a setback but in actuality, each step that we take in the right direction is progress even if we have a few missteps along the way. Perhaps the most important thing that we must do is to stay committed to the process. When we start the journey of growth, self discovery, self love, self care and self respect are the key components to knowing yourself. Listen to the inner voice that speaks so clearly about who you truly are. Write it down so that you will not forget. In moments of doubt reflect on those things and know that progress is in motion.

©️ December 2021 Inspired Serenity by Kim Seymore

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Power in Your Struggle

The storms of your life are raging and there never seems to be an end to the turmoil that you are going through. One thing after another interrupts your world like a roaring hurricane slamming into the shores of your life . You once thought you were equipped to handle the pain, disappointment, fear, and loss,; only to find out that your capacity to survive in the moment was limited and somewhat conditional.

You must build up your stamina to fight in the moment. There is often no time to waist between the unfortunate circumstance and the actions, if any, that you must take. A constant routine of prayer, scripture reading and meditating on the Word will get you to the door of peace, even in the midst of the struggle.

Strengthening your faith and understanding the power it brings to the resolution of your situation will aid you in your fight if you are struggling to believe in the power of God, you are putting yourself at a disadvantage..

Be open to healing as it will present an opportunity for growth. Never underestimate the purpose of your chosen path. While your present understanding may be limited, your steps are crucial in the process. Know that there is power in who you are becoming, where you are going, and how you will get there.

©️ March 2019 Inspired Serenity by Kim Seymore

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Waiting for Your Flowers

Have you heard the saying ‘I want my flowers while I am here on earth’? With this phrase one would be asking for those around them to celebrate us while we are here. While it may be a worth saying it may often fall in deaf ears.

The truth of the matter is, life is defiantly a journey and everyone has their highs, lows, and moments of joy and pain. While we may seek to celebrate others for their great efforts, contribution of time and unwavering compassion for others, we still have our own stuff to deal with. But at any given point either we are the ones who ate so inundated with our own drama or we are the ones wondering while no one has noticed all that we have accomplished We know what it is like to be on both side of this issue. But still……

…….we find ourselves wondering if anyone sees all that we do say in and day out. We may not opening state it but there is that part in us that may want the drums to beat when we enter a room, the horns to play a tune in unison with a full band celebrating our work. At times, we want heads to turn when we walk in a room with everyone upright acknowledging our presence. Maybe just the subtle gesture of a nod signifying a ‘thank you for helping me’ moment that cannot be replaced. Regardless of the magnitude there is something innate in us that would appreciate some type of acknowledgement for who we are and what we do. While you wait on someone to do this for you, I have a suggestion….

Buy your flowers yourself. Place them on a table in your home or in a desk in your office or cubicle. Every time you walk by, acknowledge who you are, your good works and where you are headed. The more you do this for yourself, the less you will need someone to do it for you. Flowers are a symbols of showing love or some sort of appreciation. But you may not always be in the position to get flowers when you need a little encouragement. You must make this a daily habit. Over time. You will find that although it is always good to hear an ‘I love you’ or a ‘thank you’ or even an ‘ I appreciate you’, you won’t have to depend on it for your happiness because you bought your own flowers!

Momentum

The new year is here. It is already, January 2, 2019 and the momentum is changing. The celebrations, confetti, wine, and good feelings have all worn away. For many, work has begun again and the spirit of hope, aspiration, and positive vibes have subsided. Any new year’s resolution you have made, while still in force, lacks the same urgency that it had on December 31st. As the hand moves around the clock, you wonder if you will feel the same warmth that you did when you decided that you would do something different. You cannot help but to think, ‘will this year be like all the others?’

The dictionary defines momentum as the quality of motion. It speaks in terms of the movement of the physical body or a type of force. It ties together the idea that it takes some amount of  strength and force to move an object. We can use this same meaning for the movement of our life outcomes. While not entirely physical at all times, the ability to keep our lives moving in the direction that we desire requires a certain type of momentum.

In order to live out the beauty of your dreams, you must first activate the power of your will and inner strength. You must tap into your resolve and realize the time, effort, and energy it will take to carry out your goals and aspirations. You must build up your emotional strength to deal with setbacks and disappointments.

The only way you can truly start and keep your momentum going is to set some personal goals, calendar them, and put an action plan in place to achieve them. Without a plan, it is unlikely that you will notice any real success. You must visit your plan often and make adjustments without fail. This process should be repeated so that you can keep consistency within the process and ensure that you do not veer away from your goals.

Knowing and preparing for the obstacles that you will face in advance will keep you from becoming discouraged when things do not work according to what you have planned. Perhaps one of the seemingly most significant setbacks will be the criticism of those who know you best and are likely not convinced that you can achieve what you have set out to do. Once met with this type of setback, chances are, you will step back and evaluate your success (or lack there of), start to criticize your own plan or halt the process altogether. In these instances, you manage to give the power of your momentum to someone else.

The important thing to remember is that there is no momentum without the work that goes into keeping it going. Remember, it is defined as the quality of motion and the strength needed to keep it going. This force explicitly encompasses your will to fight through every obstacles that you will come up against. When it is January 5th and you are too tired to take the next step, you have already lost your will to get it done.  When June arrives and you realize that you have not worked towards your goal in over 3 months, you have lost your resolve. When December makes its debut and you figure that if you set the same goals you will do better next year, you gave your power away long ago and that same lack of will power will yield the same results the following year.

If words of wisdom will provide you with what you need to move in the direction you are trying to go, you must take hold of a few things. Greatness is already within you but it is you that will have to take the journey to see it actualized in your life. The journey is yours and you can start and stop whenever and how ever many times you like. But your journey is just that; your journey. This means, whatever you aspire to do and/or be, it is your assignment to do it regardless, It will continue to show up in your life without fail. Each year that you decide you will do something better and/or greater in your life, it is a charge and connected to your assignment. So, without fail, go after what you seek with force. Let your momentum not fade away, but instead propel you into the life that you desire and so deserve.

© January 2019 Inspired Serenity by Kim Seymore

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Your Smile vs. Your Pain

Its that time of year again when we open our hearts and shine the light of gratitude for what we have and reach out to help others in need. But what happens when your own spirit has lost its shine and your emotions are not where they should be. Feelings of guilt begin to manifest as you realize your obvious moment of selfishness. How can you be thinking of yourself and your own woes during this time of thanksgiving?

What do you do when I’m the outside, you have it all together but on the inside you are broken all the way through?

Understand that this is not something that just happened but rather the result of many days, perhaps weeks, months and/or year that you have neglected to tend to yourself. It just so happened a that it chose to show up at this time. So where do you go from here?

First of all embrace the notion that you need to make yourself a priority in your own life. Your mind, body, and spirit must be nurtured in order for your life to reflect what you truly want.

Secondly, realize that it’s ok to feel a little off balance. This is the acknowledgement that something needs to change. Without being able to tap into those emotions, people tend to remain in a state where there is no forward movement.

Thirdly, you must develop the capacity to open up your spirit to the possibilities. Greatness will come but it may be with great struggle and pain. You must embrace the fact that there is more to your life then what is happening in this current state.

Finally, if you are stuck in a state of unrest, struggle and even feelings of defeat, know that there is a brighter day coming. We may be tossed by the wind and beat down by life experiences, but we can get up again.

Don’t worry, if you find yourself in this state often, feeling not as happy and at peace as you desire, know that this is just a reminder that there is something greater for you. It will depend on you as to when you will truly embrace who you are becoming in spite of your pain.

Find the joy in each day. Change what you need to change. Think about those things that bring you happiness. Do the things that bring you the most peace. In order for your life to reflect love, you must learn to love yourself. You do this by taking special care to make yourself a priority. Then and only then will your outward appearance and your inward emotions be in sync.

©️Kim Seymore -Inspired Serenity by Kim Seymore November 2018

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How Should You Proceed?

Growth can be such a strange thing. Especially when your circumstances makes you wonder if you have grown at all. Let’s face it, we all come to the point every now and then when we feel that we are stuck and can’t seem to find our way out.

If things in your world have got you at a stand still and you are wondering how to proceed. take.note of the following.

The beauty that is in you IS you. It should reflect in everything that you say and do. The hurts, disappointments, frustrations and setbacks should never be aloud to determine your presence in any situation.

Proceed through any uncomfortable or undesirable situation with caution. But do not allow fear to overtake you and certainly do not allow the judgement of others to stifle who you are.

Stay firmly planted in what you believe and stand up for yourself with your morals and values as the foundation. Refuse to conceal your talents, gifts and your contribution to the world.

How you proceed should always reflect the beauty of who you are which is the rue essence of who you were created to be and what you were created to do.

©️Kimberly Seymore June 2018

When It Seems Like Too Much

At some time or another, we may all experience great joy and happiness and also great pain and sadness. While the highs fill our spirits and fuel our hopes, the lows threaten our resolve and accompany that emptiness in the pit of our stomachs that keeps us in a constant state of anxiety.

While one moment you experience a brief calm, the next moment you are overtaken by something so strong that you begin to wonder if you will get through it. You know the pain: the death of a loved one, discord within your relationship, a child gone off course, loss of a job, disappointing news, financial struggles, the list goes on. Whatever your experience, it is an unmistakable feeling that things are not lining up.

Perhaps the most gut wrenching part is that in many cases, you have no answers and seemingly no control over the situation. In the night hours as you cry and pray, wondering what the outcome will be, you allow yourself to become more and more consumed with the problem.

A relative once told me that there is nothing that will come your way that you cannot handle. But in times of struggle, it is difficult to think or even believe that this too shall pass and that the promises of God will prevail.

What I have learned in times of struggle is that regardless of what you do, the hard times will come and they will come with a vengeance without any kind of concern for you, your family, who you are, or where you are trying to go. It just works to destroy, EVERYTHING. Once you come to terms with the fact that things will happen that threaten to take your very breath away., you can begin to prepare yourself.

Below are a few things that I have learned throughout the years as I have gone through struggles of my own:

1. Develop and maintain a strong relationship with God. Study the word and prayer often

2. Some things will only be resolved through fasting and praying

3. Be a light to those around you and an example of Gods word EVERYDAY

4. Make sure that you are communing with other believes

5. Share the word with your children and make sure that everyone in your house is on the same page

6. Silence the noise in your life to hear the voice of God

7. Have Faith and believe

8. Find a few go to scriptures that you can reflect on when the feeling in the pit of your stomach comes

9. Know the promises of God

10. Never give up on what you know to be true through God’s word

©️ May 2018 Kim Seymore

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